I love this quote but man, sometimes it’s a lot easier said than done! As some of you might know, my husband and I will making a cross-country trek to our new home in Colorado in just a teeny tiny bit over a month. I’ve never lived outside of the little state of Connecticut before, but I’ve definitely had my fair share of packing and moving and one thing that I have come to quickly realize is that I DO NOT LIKE IT!
Washing, wrapping, packing – these are not my ideas of fun, so hubby and I have decided that we are downsizing – A LOT. We are only going to be taking core furniture with us and those things that we simply can’t do without. It’s amazing how much stuff you can collect over time. At one point in my life I had 3 sets of dishes and there were only 2 of us!
Downsizing can sometimes be hard though. How are you going to know what you need in the future? What if it comes in handy? What should you keep or give away or sell? My #1 piece of advice? GO WITH YOUR GUT. If something keeps screaming at you that you need to keep it – KEEP IT. On the other hand, if you haven’t used it in several months (or even a year) I think it’s safe to say you can part ways.
Now moving and de-cluttering is on a smaller scale, but you can apply this to all aspects of your life. Even with moving you can start to de-clutter “past lives” and things that you don’t need. For instance, I used to save movie tickets or letters, dried flowers, Christmas cards, etc. I don’t really need those things anymore, probably haven’t looked at them since and they are just taking up space. You can also use the time to let go of things from past loves or relationships that no longer serve you. My girlfriends and I are even going to have a de-cluttering party to sort through my things, accompanied by wine and delicious food and rockin’ music. They might even go home with a score or two! Make it fun!
When you start to let go of things that you don’t need or that no longer or currently do not have a purpose in your life, you start to create space for new things and new experiences. I always feel a huge energy shift after I do this too. Everything starts flowing more freely and I feel more able to think and breathe.
So don’t be afraid, letting go is a blessing.
Did I get your attention? Good, because this is important.
I am a huge believer in fairness. I haven’t always been, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve realized the value and deeper meaning to treat everyone the same. I’ve come to accept and love the fact that we are all unique. We all have our special gifts and talents and have our own opinions and takes on the world and everything in it, but something happened the other day that made me realize that I didn’t share this view about everybody.
As I might have mentioned in an earlier post, New Haven has a large population of homeless people and for the most part they keep to themselves and occupy the town green in the wee hours of the morning. When you are walking around downtown though, it’s almost expected that you will come in contact at least once. Well the other day, I was doing just that and up a head was a man on the sidewalk, holding a sign and asking for change and I just walked by. I didn’t smile. I didn’t nod. I didn’t even acknowledge him.
Now, this might seem normal for some, but this just doesn’t seem right to me, it seems like judgement. I think there is a story that if you are homeless you got there because you’ve abused drugs or alcohol or have done something bad, etc. and therefore you now live on the streets. I don’t really know how they got there. I don’t know what’s happened in their life and I don’t know what part of their life they are in now. Maybe they did abuse drugs, but they are begging for money to get themselves clean. Maybe they’ve had a lot of tragedy in their life and they lost the thread on their life in the blink of an eye. Maybe it had nothing to do with their actions at all. I just don’t know and ignoring them won’t help me solve this mystery.
So I started thinking about what I could do. Sometimes I am apprehensive about giving money, because of the afore mentioned situations, but that doesn’t mean I have to just keep walking on by. A smile is free and it can go a looooong way or I once heard a story of a woman keeping bottled water in the car and handing those out. Go into a shop and buy a sandwich or a snack. You can also make a contribution to a local shelter. There are endless possibilities to help without contributing to a habit.
I’m not going to be scared anymore and if I have nothing else to give, I know I can give me smile and that just might be enough.
P.S. Do you have a suggestion or something that you do to help the homeless population? Please share! Leave a comment below! 🙂
Have you ever looked or felt like this? I have. In fact, this whole past week I’ve felt like that. There has been SO much stuff going on! Lots of things to do at work, lots of amazing ideas coming for CYS, moving across the country in August and all of the 9 bajillion details that go with that, trying to see as many people as we can before we leave, just to name a few things. I feel like my mind is in ten million places at once. There are times where I catch myself just sitting there staring into space because I have absolutely no idea where to start and we all know that staring into space doesn’t get you very far.
If there is one valuable thing that I have learned this week is – YOU HAVE GOT TO SCHEDULE IT! If it’s not somewhere visible well, out of sight, out of mind my friend. Write it down somewhere. Come up with some sort of system. I work from home and I really have to keep myself disciplined to stay focused, otherwise I would never get a single thing done.
So I make sure that I schedule everything down so that I never lose track of what I need to accomplish. Everyone has their own way of keeping track of things. My way is a notebook that I fill with all the things that I need to take care of, and as I complete them, I cross them off with a highlighter. I also like to use my calendar on my computer to keep track of all my important dates and functions, which is conveniently synced to my phone. This makes things so much easier when everything is right within reach.
So what are your big goals? Write down the steps you need to take to accomplish them and set a date. Make sure you see it every day and step by step start working toward your dream. If you have a system that has worked for you or a story on how you finally pulled yourself out of the chaos and want to share, please feel free to post below!
When you take the time to set yourself up for success, you are less likely to be feeling crazy and stressed and more likely to be looking blissful and relaxed like this gal.